Relax (Body, Mind, and Soul)

Ways To Relax:

1. What does relaxation mean to you? How do you feel when you are relaxed? Write a list of relaxing words on an index card and keep it at your desk as a reminder.

2. Express creativity. All you need is a “little kid” coloring book with old favorite cartoon characters, an extra large box of crayons, and no artistic standards. And don’t be afraid to color outside the lines!

3. Clean out the clutter. Mental clutter may keep you from falling asleep, but physical clutter can affect you as well. Take some time this week to clean up the piles of clothes, stacks of magazines, or numerous knick-knacks that are cluttering your bedroom. A simplified environment serves as a natural sedative.

4. Are you constantly looking at your watch while WAITING in line at the supermarket? Are you impatient before an appointment or until your children’s lessons are finished? Treat yourself to a “waiting enhancer.” Carry a favorite magazine or paperback book in your bag to while away the time pleasantly.

5. Carry an umbrella. Being prepared minimizes stress. So purchase a few small, fold-up umbrellas. Leave one in your car, another in your attache, or at the office. Then you’ll never worry about getting caught in the rain.

6. Take a jog or an aerobics class. More than 70 percent of people say that they don’t work out because they are too tired., but what they may not know is that exercise is a great stress reliever. If you break the fatigue-inactivity cycle, you will be rewarded with relaxation.

7. After a tiring day, soothe those tight muscles by filling the bathtub with 2 cups of Epsom salts and hot water (stimulating but not scalding). Sink into the tub and lunge with a towel or bath pillow behind your head. When the water begins to cool, stand up and turn on the shower. Rinse off with a blast of cold water, then end with a warming stream.

8. Aroma Therapy. Essential oils are highly concentrated essencesderived from plants and flowers. Relax with the sedating scents of lavender, lemon balm, Roman chamomile, neroli, ylang ylang, and clary sage.

9. Write your own horoscope. Some mornings don’t you just wish the overgeneralized newspaper horoscopes were right? Make believe. “Grab the brass ring and do what you have wanted to do for a long time,” or “The stars are right for romance.” Live today with that possibility.

10. Postpone procrastination. We often put off unpleasant tasks. We stall because we are afraid of making decisions or mistakes. This just prolongsour tension and discomfort. Figure out the reasons for your procrastination. Then, don’t delay. Do it now!

In love?

I’ve always considered dating as one of the hardest part in my life. Dating is still a mystery to me as I often wonder the difference between dating and being on a steady relationship with someone. Back in my teenage years (this may sound so ancient to me), I never thought about “dating” would make a huge impact in my life now that I am 30 years old. Having crushes with boys in my high school is a normal phase for a curious, childish, and happy-go-lucky person like me (that was then). I would have to admit that I had a few crushes during my high school years and although I don’t consider myself popular, I would still get love letters/love notes from my so-called “admirers”.

I never had a steady relationship while I was still in the Philippines. I guess I never thought about having a boyfriend because i would constantly hang out with my girlfriends. My Mom used to be so strict about her daughters meeting boys and now that I turned 30, it doesn’t seem to be the case anymore. It’s a good thing that my Mom no longer nag me about the opposite sex or whom I date but I usually get phone calls from her asking “when I am getting married”. Hah!

Seriously, it’s a baffling dilemma and my Mom’s not-so-sudden change of tactic is horrifying for me! I guess, it’s her way of saying, “now you’re an adult, go find yourself a fine husband, give me grandkids, and live happily”. Honestly, it never occured in my mind that someday my Mom would be so persistent and worried about me not getting married.

Yes, I think about the future but I don’t want to waste my time thinking about what might be or what might not happen in the future. I don’t even keep a certain time table for myself because I believe that when it happens, it happens. Someone will definitely cross my path and who knows….we might end up being together. That’s the spirit…:)